Book Summary | The Coaching Habit (2016)

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​ "The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever" by Michael Bungay Stanier was published in 2016. The described coaching framework includes seven questions to ask during a coaching session:

• (Kickstart) "What's on your mind?" 
• (AWE) "What else?"
• (Focus) What is the real challenge for you? 
  • What's the challenge? 
  • What's the real challenge here?
  • What's the real challenge for you? 
• (Foundation) Have you thought of it? 
  • What about?
  • Did you consider...? 
  • What do you want? 
• (Lazy) How can I help you?
• (Strategic question) If you are saying Yes to this, what are you saying No to? 
• (Learning Question) What was most beneficial for you? 

In summary, coaching is a leadership method aimed at helping people discover their problems and solutions rather than simply presenting solutions to them. This approach gives people a deeper understanding and motivation to commit to the solution they have arrived at themselves. The coaching principles include powerful questioning, active listening, challenging assumptions, and encouraging reflection.

Finding the right timing to create a mirroring conversation and engaging in an in-depth dialogue with strengthening feedback is critical. It's essential to guide the audience to express their viewpoints openly, navigate the solution, and gain the emotions of "I want to do it." One thing to remember is to hold on to give solutions.

The benefits of coaching include making the people we coach feel more independent, confident, positive, and responsible for their actions. It also expresses the coach's growth, nurturing intention, and respect.