Summary | Untangling You (2021)

What is it about? Untangling you: How can I be grateful when I feel so resentful? by Kerry Howells discuss how we can deal with the resentment emotions. 

Why bother? There are many challenges in our lives. Keeping a resentment emotion is one of them. Resentment can impact tour health, relationship and productivity. It's worthwhile to understand the emotion and turn it into a positive emotion like gratitude. We can visit Kerry's blog at kerryhowells.com for more of her thoughts on gratitude. 

Key Ideas The book discuss practical actions to practice gratitude and let go resentment: 

• Start with acceptance. The reason we don't feel grateful is that we don't accept the current possessions. Our high exception and desire cause the resentment. We focus on what we don't have rather than what we area have. 
• Stop seeking recognitions. When we depend on others to decide the value of ourselves, we can quickly feel resentful because others don't care as much as we do. Therefore, you can't get them very often and the disappointments turns into resentments. To get rid of resentment, stop seeking approvals, acknowledgment, thanks you and recognitions. You feel freedom after this. 
• Cultivate gratefulness. Lower expectations, listen to others and hold your compassions to others and ourselves. We keep a journal of what we are grateful for every day and express gratitude when we feel it. ​