Jealousy is a natural feeling that arises when we are not content with what we have and strongly desire something we don't possess. If we consider the things that we already have, like the ability to
walk, good health, and the safety of our family members, we won't feel jealous of others who have these things. It's often said, "The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself." (101 Essays that Can Change the Way You Think) This means that comparing and competing with others usually comes from needing more self-confidence.
To overcome jealousy, we can take the following steps:
- Firstly, we should learn to appreciate what we have and the support we have received so far. We can do this through self-approval meditation.
- Secondly, we should set realistic goals and take concrete steps to achieve them instead of just wishing for them.
- Thirdly, we should view the accomplishments of others as a positive contribution to the world, which can make our own lives more interesting. Rather than competing with them, we should strive to collaborate with them, creating a better environment for everyone. There is more than enough room for success for everyone, so let's focus on taking only what we need.(各取所需)
- Finally, we should feel blessed for the life we have. Every life is unique and comes with a specific purpose. Every individual faces different challenges. We should learn to appreciate our own journey.