In our previous conversation, we discussed Control, Out of Control, and Let Go. We discussed the sensation of control and introduced the concept of surrendering. The main point was that there is no need to control everything. Instead, we should observe and experience while managing our reactions. This time, we will explore more about the manifestations of controlling. The need for control can manifest in various ways.
One manifestation is wanting others to behave as we see fit. This especially affects our interactions with our children. Demanding high or unreasonable standards can also make those around us feel pressured and suffocated. This can harm our relationships.
The desire to control often arises from a need for security. We worry about unpredictable situations and need more confidence in handling them. However, letting go of this urge can make us feel free and relaxed. The suggestion is to trust the natural flow of life and live in harmony with it.
When striving for perfection, we may become controlling. However, we must recognize that control only leads to exhaustion. Instead, we should embrace diversity, differences, and imperfections as natural and realistic.
After calming our minds, we realize we cannot control the external environment or other people. What we can control is our emotions, actions, and thoughts. Using phrases like "I am willing to learn to trust" and "I am willing to let go of control" can be helpful.
One manifestation is wanting others to behave as we see fit. This especially affects our interactions with our children. Demanding high or unreasonable standards can also make those around us feel pressured and suffocated. This can harm our relationships.
The desire to control often arises from a need for security. We worry about unpredictable situations and need more confidence in handling them. However, letting go of this urge can make us feel free and relaxed. The suggestion is to trust the natural flow of life and live in harmony with it.
When striving for perfection, we may become controlling. However, we must recognize that control only leads to exhaustion. Instead, we should embrace diversity, differences, and imperfections as natural and realistic.
After calming our minds, we realize we cannot control the external environment or other people. What we can control is our emotions, actions, and thoughts. Using phrases like "I am willing to learn to trust" and "I am willing to let go of control" can be helpful.
